Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Social Movement Theory and Marriage

Yup I am writing my thesis and now I am indulging in intricate details of social movement theory, attempting to analyze how social movement organizations and social movements operate. There are so many conflicting opinions and categorizations in this field and it draws on from so many disciplines of social science. I am almost done with this chapter, which is a major one in my thesis, so that should be good and the rest will be fitting the info I have collected from interviews and secondary sources into the variables examined and vola; you got a brand new thesis.

It seems the quality of my thesis will have to suffer to meet the deadline, but I wont publish the one I am going to present the committee, I will give it a few more weeks and add some things which will require extra research and going back to more theory.

Other than that inshaAllah I will write a book in Arabic touching on the matter and other issues touching on Islam and politics.

An extremely enriching experience subhan Allah. The amount of effort one has to put in it for it to work smoothly is a lot yet in the end its rewarding alhamdullelah. There is no doubt it makes you mature early if you get married early, and if you have kids then I can only imagine more. Women get moody and jealous and what not, and you have to cater to their attention, and you are gonna make mistakes too so you have to apologize as much as you expect your spouse to do so. Marriage gives you a whole new perspective on life and social relations.

Yet some people make it seem as if they are on an ever ending voyage to find their long lost love or their soul mate and what not, it becomes an end in itself. There is no doubt that marriage is a blessing and your blessings are from Allah, so whoever you marry is indeed your rizq. It doesn’t end with marriage, marriage indeed is half your deen in the hadeeth, and subhan Allah it is!!!!! it doesn’t mean you don’t have to keep your deen in check, you still have another whole half to work on. Its something necessary to hold hands with someone worthy to pass this world into the one after. It is no wonder that many get divorced so early, they think that they will find happiness in it when happiness is indeed in a good marriage but it is ultimately in following Allah’s way in everything including marriage.

I was once with a bunch of bros whom all congratulated me on marriage and one was like the first 2 years are tough and full of arguments, (another American desi bro on my day of marriage whom I knew since 2003 whom I was blessed to attend and called me kid back then haha was like just remember Osman said patience, patience, patience) after 2 years its all good, his wife told my wife in the gathering (segregated) that’s its 6 months LOL!!!! I guess the bro was patient for a year and a half more!!!! Than she was.

Arguments are inevitable especially at first when you have not lived together and don’t know day to day details of how about to go on with life. The man has to be really more patient, and prophet Muhammad saws was indeed patient with ALL of his wives! Aisha may Allah be pleased with her smashed a tray with food prepared by another wife (I forget which) and he saws laughed it off, 2 of his wives gave him something similar to honey but makes your mouth smell bad out of jealousy from other wives. And yet he saws never raised a hand against any of his wives. Let my wife smash anything, I ll just get up and whack her, no am kidding.

Oh yeah polygamy, now imagine all the issues of one marriage when you have 2 or more wives (every man’s dream) its awesome and all if you can ( sisters hate the subject), many would say that you have to be just and fair between them, but its really much more than that, it gets way more complicated, and the best example is our prophet saws.

prophet Muhammad sallah Alahu 3alayhi wa sallam had to deal with such issues and he was the leader of the Ummah, and running its affairs, so its not an excuse at all to be busy and neglect your household/s which I would like to remind myself with most of all.

now I will do plenty of squats since I couldnt go to the gym to do legs! then perhaps get back to my social freakin movement theory.

سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا أنت أستغفرك و أتوب إليك

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